Last weekend I had the opportunity to travel to Trinidad & Tobago for my girlfriend’s wedding. I hadn’t been to the island in quite some time so it was an absolute pleasure to be back! I was able to not only witness this beautiful expression of love, but I was also able to be a part of the entire process, as a bridesmaid. Being a bridesmaid is an especially important role because you are chosen to walk alongside and support someone as they undertake a fricking major milestone! Can you say pressure! I’ve stood as a bridesmaid in two weddings, and I am by no means an expert or a role model bridesmaid. So, today, I’ve teamed up with the experts over at BrideBerry.com, to give you the major rundown on what exactly is expected of you once you say YES… to be the best bridesmaid ever!
Tips For Being An Amazing Bridesmaid
Being a bridesmaid is a long-term commitment – physically, emotionally and financially. Chances are that the person who asked you to stand beside them on their most special day is someone that you love and cherish (and who loves and cherishes you!), so regardless of the sacrifices, you should aim to make the wedding experience an amazing one for them. Here are some tips on how to do just that:
- Manage Your Budget: From the moment you are asked to be a member of a bridal party, start saving your coins! Expenses will add up quickly, and you don’t want to create stress for yourself or the bride by having to drop out due to insufficient funds. Aside from what you’ll be wearing that day, you need to factor in the costs related to the bachelorette party/shower, a gift, and travel to the wedding (if applicable). Also, if you can, ask the bride if she has a price range she is looking in for bridesmaid dresses and accessories so that you’ll know how much you need to save.
- Be a Team Player: Within a group of girls, there are going to be differing opinions on every aspect of the wedding. You will not agree with all of the decisions made! Maybe the dress that the bride and everyone else voted for is downright hideous and does nothing for your complexion. Is it worth is to cause dissent over? Nope. Maybe you thought the party bus was a better bachelorette option than a booze brunch. Will it kill you to show up and slap on a smile? Also nope. As much as it may kill you inside, the experience for the bride will be so much better when her best girls get along.
- Stay Informed: Be sure that you are aware of the dates and times all of the events that you will be expected to attend. Also add to your calendar the dates that all of the deposits are due. It will be difficult for the bride to have to follow up on important things with everything else that is happening, so remove that item from her plate and get it done!
- Participate: Play an active role in the wedding by offering to help where you can. Bridesmaids are tasked with planning the bachelorette party and sometimes the shower, so be sure to engage the other members of the bridal party (and family members) to coordinate those special events. This also applies to attending and preparing for other events, like the rehearsal dinner or engagement party (if you’re selected at that point).
- Be Prepared: At the wedding and wedding-related events, have items on hand that will solve any crises that may arise. Gather up bobby pins, oil-absorbing sheets, flat shoes, safety pins and other things to make up a wedding day emergency kit – if a problem arises that you can fix, we promise that she’ll love you forever!
- Be A Good Friend: This is probably the most important part of being a bridesmaid. Be a shoulder to cry on, a cooler in stressful times, someone to complain to, a problem solver and an encourager. Don’t vent to her and add wedding-related problems to her plate – You can probably solve them yourself anyway. There is nothing more important than being a supportive friend during a time that is wonderful but is bound to have bumps along the way. If you do this, all of the other tips will come naturally!
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